The Midwife From Hell

June 17, was the day of celebration for Aminah's passing. I just sat back really sad thinking about all the memories of that day. That even has shaped my life in so many ways. I am thankful for the years that have followed that day. Oh how I miss you so, sweet Aminah, I feel your pretty presence everyday. -Love Always,    Your beautiful Mother      Dreah Louis

THE EXPERIENCE SUCKED............... THE MIDWIFE WAS HORRIBLE AND SHE DIDN'T TREAT ME  RIGHT...... THE HOSPITAL TREATED ME LIKE SHIT...................... THE PARAMEDICS TREATED ME LIKE A HUMAN, SHOWED UP DIDNT HAVE THE RIGHT EQUIPMENT THE LEGISLATORS TREATED ME LIKE A CHARITY CASE THE ATTORNEY'S WOULDN'T TAKE MY CASE BECAUSE THEY COULDN'T GET ANY MONEY AND BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT TO REPRESENT ME THE MIDWIFE HAD NO PROBLEM TAKING ALL MY MONEY THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO DEAL WITH MY VAGINA. MEANING DOING EXAMS THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO SHOW TO THE GRIEVANCE SHE FILED A RESTRAINING ORDER BECAUSE SHE FELT THREATENED BY MY BLACK HUSBAND THE MIDWIFE NEVER SHOWED TO THE HOSPITAL (NO RESPECT FOR ME AS A WOMAN) THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO COME TO MY NEIGHBORHOOD (TOO MANY BLACK PEOPLE) SHE WASN'T INTERESTED IN DOING ANY LABS ON ME OR ULTRASOUNDS Most people would say she was just a bad midwife but NO sh...

 My brain will never let me forget how The Midwife From Hell, Joann Falcon stood me up for the birth of my twins. How she didn't treat my pregnancy important is disturbing to me. Sometimes I sit back and rewind the event in my head. I remember calling her three days before the day I went into labor because I had threw up really bad and I just didn't feel good. I called her on her phone and told her that I was having contractions but they weren't regular.She asked me if I thought she should come? I was telling her that I was calling because I didn't now if it was normal to throw up so close to the due date. I had told her that I had not threw up any during the pregnancy. She asked me how far apart the contraction were and I said that they came and went every three or four hours or so. She then told me that I was not in labor and to call her when they were closer together. As a patient was I not entitled to a visit that day. Maybe she should have came and checked ...

No one can predict the future. No one knows what tomorrow holds. Life can change in a second. Since Aminah passed I have had a new outlook on life. Loosing a child is hard no matter what the age is. No one should have to loose any child especially not to home birth. Recently I have been networking and I have run into so many women who I use to think just like. I would ask the same questions and dive into everything about home birth that I could get my hands on. If I could change just one girls opinion on home birth that is a delicate gesture towards the death of my daughter. I mean "a gift of gratitude". If I could let one woman know that her decision to home birth is more than just a decision. It's a decision and home birth has become something like a cult. When I say cult  I mean home birth has become something like a movement of people that believe in this dream of natural child birth. Most of the time this movement sway women away from hospitals to indulge in the gi...