Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Home Birthing While Black

THE EXPERIENCE SUCKED...............
THE MIDWIFE WAS HORRIBLE AND SHE DIDN'T TREAT ME  RIGHT......
THE HOSPITAL TREATED ME LIKE SHIT......................
THE PARAMEDICS TREATED ME LIKE A HUMAN, SHOWED UP DIDNT HAVE THE RIGHT EQUIPMENT
THE LEGISLATORS TREATED ME LIKE A CHARITY CASE
THE ATTORNEY'S WOULDN'T TAKE MY CASE BECAUSE THEY COULDN'T GET ANY MONEY AND BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT TO REPRESENT ME
THE MIDWIFE HAD NO PROBLEM TAKING ALL MY MONEY
THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO DEAL WITH MY VAGINA. MEANING DOING EXAMS
THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO SHOW TO THE GRIEVANCE SHE FILED A RESTRAINING ORDER BECAUSE SHE FELT THREATENED BY MY BLACK HUSBAND
THE MIDWIFE NEVER SHOWED TO THE HOSPITAL
(NO RESPECT FOR ME AS A WOMAN)
THE MIDWIFE DIDN'T WANT TO COME TO MY NEIGHBORHOOD
(TOO MANY BLACK PEOPLE)
SHE WASN'T INTERESTED IN DOING ANY LABS ON ME OR ULTRASOUNDS
Most people would say she was just a bad midwife but NO she took me as a client because I didn't have a problem paying her every time she seen me you just know if somebody is treating you different because of your skin color.
The Midwife treated me different from the rest of her clients. I was told after my daughter died that the midwife did not give me the best care and it was probably because she was uncomfortable in my black environment.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Research On The Midwife Is Crictical

Research, Research, and more Research we all do it. We research anything we want to know when we need immediate answers to questions that we are unsure of. The question is how much research is enough when deciding to homebirth? The answer to this question is that you can never stop researching your midwife and all the attributes of homebirth. When choosing to homebirth of course all women are exciting about the idea of doing something different something out of the "norm" but in all reality you have to be prepared if your home birth does not go the way you plan. There are many steps that you can take to ensure that you can experience the best quality home birth but beware that here are still may risk associated with a home birth rather if it's planned or not planned.

One of the problems with researching home birth you can do a risk assessment on your home birth but you can not predict the day you will go into labor and you definitely can not predict how long you will be in labor. As a mother I know we all feel like we know our bodies and we trust that nature can take its course but sometimes nature has a plan of its own and every midwife is not qualified enough to handle every situation that may occur.

Midwives are licensed through NARM  which basically means they get all of their education and certification through this organization of midwives. Just because a midwife completes appropriate courses and training does not mean that the midwife is qualified for the job. A lot of midwives do have deaths on record and they will not talk about them with you as a client because of the taboo but by all means still ask. It is important to know how many babies have died under their care and what happened. It is your responsibility to ask these questions because the midwife will not just tell you. It is important to now what and who you are dealing with.

Also one of the worst things that can happen at a birth is the midwife to be late. There is no room for that and being late to a birth can cause a lot harm and can live the family in a situation of an unassisted home birth. A lot of women have had midwives all the way up to the delivery date to have the midwife extremely late resulting in a baby being delivered by the mother and father. The parents are just so happy that their bundle of joy has arrived that they don't even fault the midwife for being late or not being there at all. This is a major problem.

If you are choosing to homebirth it is important to have more than one midwife on the job. This could be more expensive but in the long run it could help you just in case your midwife can not be on time.
Where a midwife lives is important also. You have to honestly find out where your midwife lives NOT where she does business. These are sometimes to different places. Travel time is very important when it comes to a labor and delivery. Even at the hospital can not be at the birth there are other doctors in the hospital that are on call for the event. Better safer than sorry.

Also still remember that midwives are not required to carry malpractice insurance so if something does go wrong it will be nothing that can be done to reimburse you for any pain and suffering that is a major pill to swallow. At the end of the day all midwives are not bad midwives they have been here since the beginning of time but everyone that claims to be a certified trained midwife is not. Take the words from a mother that has experienced the worst case delivery and midwife.

Thanks for reading The Midwife from Hell

Monday, September 1, 2014

I Hate The Midwife



My brain will never let me forget how The Midwife From Hell, Joann Falcon stood me up for the birth of my twins. How she didn't treat my pregnancy important is disturbing to me. Sometimes I sit back and rewind the event in my head. I remember calling her three days before the day I went into labor because I had threw up really bad and I just didn't feel good. I called her on her phone and told her that I was having contractions but they weren't regular.She asked me if I thought she should come? I was telling her that I was calling because I didn't now if it was normal to throw up so close to the due date. I had told her that I had not threw up any during the pregnancy. She asked me how far apart the contraction were and I said that they came and went every three or four hours or so. She then told me that I was not in labor and to call her when they were closer together.
As a patient was I not entitled to a visit that day. Maybe she should have came and checked me, my vitals, the heartbeats, my cervix, you know all that good stuff to at least see if the babies were coming soon. As a matter of fact she never checked my cervix one time during the pregnancy to see how far I had dilated. She never did any ultrasounds, no lab work. I didn't think anything was wrong really I would say mainly because she stressed how all that stuff was not necessary.

When I did feel the contractions come on I did exactly what she asked me to do call back. On May 24,2013 I called her when they were closer together. This midwife asked me how far apart and I told her every 5 minutes. I just sit back now and think about how five minutes is really together (contractions, I mean). That's when I should have high tailed it to the hospital but I didn't. Do you know why I didn't because I trusted the midwife's judgment. She tells me to prepare for the birth and she was on her way. Instead I should have been on my way to the hospital. Now one of my babies is gone and she is still delivering babies like she never had a hand in my daughters death. She has this Facebook page where she is completely not honest about her dealings as a midwife. She never told her friends that she is currently being sanctioned by NARM. She never told her friends that she did not show to a dead babies grievance meeting. She mentions on her facebook page when she delivers healthy babies but does not mention when a baby dies. Never on her page did she talk about my daughters death.

Why would that be something that a midwife would want to talk about? Is it because women would become scared? See the problem with midwifery, babies do die at home but the midwives don't openly talk about death. It is like they hide it because of some type of taboo. Death is never even talked about at all in the midwife community. They just talk about the healthy babies they deliver. That is so contrary to the real and it is absolutely disgusting.

If your a midwife and you can glorify all your healthy births you can most definitely talk about your deaths.

Dreah Louis
Writer of The Midwife From Hell




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