Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Accountability is Questionable

Does midwifery have true accountability?" My answer to that question is NO! Absolutely not. Based on my situation with my midwife experience there was absolutely no accountability. The midwife didn't even show up to a Grievance meeting about her actions. It took a whole year to get a meeting and the midwife does not show up! The midwives in charge of these grievance meetings make up the rules as they go. My goal is to let other moms know that you absolutely don't want to have to file a grievance because there is no accountability. Take it from a mother who has talked to politicians, lawyers, lobbyist, congressmen, district attorneys, midwives, doctors, nurses and police officers. There is no accountability with home birth if something goes wrong. All you will get is a dead or mental handicapped child and or funeral cost and fees and lets not forget to mention medical bills.

Come on who would want that for their self? Absolutely no one. So my advice is to play it safe in the hospital. Don't play rush and roulette at home with these midwives. My story is one of many and very sad but real. Every midwife is not Joanne but why wait to the birth to find out, then its to late. Sometimes word of mouth is not good enough to rely on by itself. Dig deep. Find your own accountability. Know the reasons you really want to have a home birth. I use to be so against hospitals but really we do need them and midwives are doing a good job to keep women out of them but then when something goes wrong you have to run too that very hospital that you tried to stay away from.

You don't want your child's birth to be a crime scene that a midwife is running from all along she is still delivering babies as if she didn't just murder a child. Putting other children and women at risk. Collecting money on a phony business is absolutely unfair to any mother seeking a natural stress free birth at home. People say using the word murder is to vivid, strong but that is how my birth happened. You see the midwife deceived me, lied to me, called her self helping by coaching over the phone when in all reality she should have called the ambulance to my home. Can you imagine following the lead of your midwife all the way up to the birth and because it all goes wrong at the end the midwives ask you  why you didn't call 911? That is an absolute slap in the face and a wake up call to let all other mothers know that your choosing home birth as a better option to hospital birth but don't let your midwife toy with your intelligence and your lines of questioning. You have lives on the line with no accountability knocking at your front door.

How can active midwives expect for mothers to trust them and home birth if there is no true accountability for the actions of a midwife

Monday, March 17, 2014

Home Birth Has left a Sour Taste in my Mouth

Unfortunately I must say that home birth has indeed left a sour taste in my mouth. Every time I think of a woman home birthing I see "Dead Babies". I cant get these images out of my mind. It is sick and disgusting how non serious these midwives are about mothers and babies. I'm sorry to every midwife who thinks they can deliver babies in "La La Land".  A lot of these midwives are so free spirited that they have forgotten about logic. When a woman chooses home birth she is not thinking about all the things that could go wrong and the midwife is not going to tell you about all the things that can go wrong because indeed it is a business and they don't want to scare their clients into hospitals now do they?

Some of these midwives are pitiful when it comes to home birth and their fairy ideas on how birth should be. I am shouting, "get out of the clouds" and pull some logic out a hat. Birthing babies at home is serious and there needs to be a serious team of people involved. Home birth in all reality should be just as much as a hospital birth because your going to have to pay a whole lot of people to make sure that that baby comes out live and healthy. Also midwives need to stop being so scared of hospitals and working with physicians because ultimately if something goes wrong you have to go there anyway.

Don't get me wrong some women have been lucky and many do have smooth, gracious, glory filled births at home with minimum assistant of any a midwife or a team. If a woman has a baby and she was unassisted by a midwife. THAT WAS DANGEROUS and I sure hope you didn't pay your midwife.The baby is going to come into the world with or without a midwife. Your paying a midwife to be extra hands, help, and most of all logic in the field of babies and labor.

Midwifery also has left a sour taste in my mouth because there is truly no accountability. The process alone is stressful and timely. It takes an extremely long time to place a complaint on a midwife. Most women faced with this circumstance will give up! The midwives will make you want to give up. I stuck to my grains and I did not give up for my daughter Aminah. This blog keeps her live everyday. My daughter is helping many mothers save their babies lives.

There needs to be more accountability with midwifery before I change my mind on home birth. Until then I will tell every other mother who is thinking about going down the path of home birth keep that sour taste in your mouth, never fully trust a midwife, do your research, and ask questions until your blue in the face. Make your midwife scared of you. Have a back up midwife just in case and never trust a midwife when she says that she doesn't have any deaths on her record.

To all the MIDWIVES FROM HELL I will never stop exposing you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

The Midwife Time Clock

For some reason I feel like midwives agree that it is okay to be extremely late to births. A birth is so unpredictable. I can not stress enough that each woman's body is unique and different. As a midwife you can not base one birth off of another birth. Midwife's can not play around with time. If as a midwife you have chosen to take on a client and you realize that you stay more than 30 minutes away from her than that's way too far! Thirty minutes is even pushing it if you ask me. I think that this one of the major problems with the midwifery community. Time.

Time is of Essence isn't that the beautiful cliche that we all know. It's true. Some women have precipitous labors (very fast) the midwife knows this and still takes on the client and then at the end gambles with time. Believe it or not having a baby at home is truly unpredictable. How does a midwife know ahead of time how long a women will labor? How does a midwife know if that vertex baby won't turn breech during labor? How does that midwife know that the baby's heart rate can increase extremely fast in distress? How does a midwife prepare for prolapse cord?

The answer to those question is you can't prepare enough. The point of this chapter of the blog is to talk about how time is perceived in the midwife world opposed to the client/mother world. A lot of midwives tell their clients to call when contractions are 5 minutes apart. REALLY?

Five minutes apart is kind of pushing it if your asking me. Five minutes apart is really close and things can happen quick. No woman should have an unassisted childbirth. That is not cool at all and it is very risky. I know of midwives who have had unassisted childbirths and feel that there is nothing wrong with it. The midwife who held the grievance meeting for my daughter has an unassisted childbirth although she is a midwife.

She told me at the grievance board that her child birth for her latest baby was unassisted because her midwife as well was late. HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Does anyone else see a problem with this or is it just me. If your going to be late for a birth then home birth completely goes out the window. You can't birth babies at home if your going to be late.

Being on time for a birth is essential I think most women would agree. Your already taking a risk birthing a baby at home. I think CPM's should hang it up not more delivering babies at home because we all know that there is more than one MIDWIFE FROM HELL OUT THERE!

Sunday, March 9, 2014

The Midwife Didnt Even Show

My husband and I had the Grievance meeting in February regarding the death of our twin daughter Aminah. We showed up at a church in Webster Grooves, Missouri. At first I was wondering why the meeting was being held in a church but I went ahead with it and met the midwife in charge of the meeting, Rachel Williston. She arrived with three other midwives from the Missouri area who did not know Joann and Jennifer personally (I guess so there was not conflict of interest).  When me and I my husband arrived at the church we meet Rachel in a conference room in the back . The first thing that Rachel said when we began the meeting is that she was glad my husband and I showed up and she was sad to say the Joann would not be attending the meeting in person but via speaker phone because she filed a police report on my husband and I saying that we had been harassing her and she was to stay away from us. Midwife Jennifer Konkol showed as well She didn't say anything at all during the meeting she just sat at the table.

I laughed at the idea that we finally got our grievance meeting and the midwife in charge of the death of my daughter didn't even have the decency to show up to the grievance. She is a coward and I hope her business suffers because of her cowardly acts as a midwife. My husband and I just looked at each other and shook our heads. We should just call Joann on Over The Phone Midwife because that is all she is. That's her problem you cant conduct most of your business over the phone. That's the last thing that I remember about Joann is her helping deliver my babies over the phone. She was an absent midwife who should never be able to deliver babies again. But my story enough is not good enough for her to loose her license. Unfortunately more babies will die in the hands of this midwife.

I'm sad to say that yet again we allowed these midwives to lure and play us. The midwives asked me and my husband a series of question about the quality of care that was received from Joann. My husband and I answered all the questions and the meeting ended. I brought twin Akilah to the meeting to let the midwives see that  my other twin was healthy an well and there is for no reason why I shouldn't have my other child with me.

Sadly to say my situation or incident did not hold up anything because Joann is still delivering babies as if she did not have a hand in the death of my baby. Rachel emails me the other day and tells me that my story is touching and she was sorry again that this has happened to our family. She told me that she forwarded all of the information from the Grievance meeting to Shannon Anton from NARM and I will be hearing from Shannon Anton from  here on out regarding disciplinary actions for Midwife Joann Falcon.

I have not heard Anything since the meeting.

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