The Midwife From Hell

themidwifefromhell.com Twin Aminah and Twin Akilah  When I first visited with him the day after my daughter was admitted into the NICU at Cardinal Glennon Hospital St. Louis he appeared to be annoyed by my circumstances with my "Home Birth Disaster". He kind of had an arrogant attitude you can say. He shook my hand and told me it wasn't good. He told me that Aminah went to long without oxygen and resulted in a brain injury. He told me that my daughter was pretty much brain dead and the only thing keeping her alive was the machine. He said that she would never do the things that her identical sister will be able to do. He advised my husband and I that it would be in our best interest to let Aminah pass. He gave us the option to take Aminah home and let her pass at home or just take away the tubes. I refused. I wasn't ready. I was in denial. I continued to visit everyday and Dr. Havernak passed me on many occasions in ...

themidwifefromhell.com Please don't let your situation ever be like my situation was. I waited to long for a midwife. I trusted my midwifes' judgment. I mean that's what I was paying her for right? To think about it I trusted her judgment to much. The night I went into labor with my daughters I was on my way home from the Blues Fest in Downtown St. Louis Missouri. My husband was driving and my two other children rode in the back seats of out family SUV. My daughter Abayomi 4 years old and son Akin 2 years old awaiting arrival of twin baby sisters Akilah and Aminah. As we continued home I begin to feel different. My lower stomach began to contract very heavily which made me grab my husbands arm and sigh in pain. As he looked over at me he said, " Oh Ohh it's time". I tell him yes. I removed my phone out of my purse and phoned my midwife Joann. She answered the phone. I told her that I was indeed having contractions. She asked me how many minutes the...

Never pay Midwife in advance. There are so many reasons why I say this. The main reason why I say this is because there will be supplies that you will have to buy along the way to prepare for a home birth and everything is going to come out of your pocket. Depending on what type of home birth you decide to have make sure that you are clear on what items are completely necessary for a home birth. Don't waste money on things that these midwives will act like you need. Remember this is a profession now and they will market pools, and many maternity items while pregnant. Its a business and all you really need is for the midwife to be at your birth. Never let a midwife talk you into paying midwife fee upfront. This is a Red Flag. The reason why I say this is because, what if the midwife does not fulfill the duties of a midwife? Understand that there is no rush on paying. Always make sure that you keep record of what you paid for and make sure midwife signs off on receipts. Never...

                                                     www.themidwifefromhell.com Some people are mad about this chapter of the blog because they said that I did not get their authorization from them personally to post this chapter. For all who don't know I am indeed a member of the babycenter.com  and I created a thread that stated "Midwives should have to carry insurance" Anyways many women commented on the thread and are now still commenting. I just wanted to share with people who are not apart of the babycenter.com world on what women are saying in regarding this unique situation. Some will be mad but I'm sorry these are your words and once you put them in the atmosphere your words are alive. I didn't post the entire thread just a couple pages just to get a generalization. Sorry ahead of time for whoever it offends. For whoever would l...