The Midwife From Hell

Planning a Home Birth? Well, I hope it goes right because you do not want to deal with NARM or the Midwife Association of your state. They will give you The Run Around. They do not take death serious at all. It's like they try to protect each other by slowing up the process. My daughter passed away in June of 2013 and I have been trying to file a complaint with the Missouri Midwives Association since May. These women make you do all your correspondence through mail. You send things certified mail and they still claim that they didn't get it. I'm not trying to scare any mother for choosing to home birth but just know that if your birth does not turn out right and the midwife is indeed at.fault you have to be your child's best advocate. No one cares about your situation until your situation becomes their situation. The thing about home birth is that you can never actually plan what will take place at a home birth. It's just to unpredictable. Lets just throw my ...

themidwifefromhell.com Freedom is why people come to America. The Bill of Rights is what people stand on in this country. Without those rights Americans would feel conformed, restricted, and regulated. I enjoy having freedoms. Waking up in the morning to my own place, food, vehicle, children, husband, and just life. The things that makes us pure human beings. The Internet has gotten us to the point where we can share so much information so much quicker than before. Anything new is a learning experience. To involve a new idea, task, or endeavor  is something that involves change. Home birth you can say for me was a new idea at one point in time. It was something that grew with me as I become older. When I left home at the age of 21 I realized that my hometown of St. Louis, Missouri was not where I wanted to spend the rest of the my life, so I packed up my things and traveled down south to Orlando, Florida with the love of my life Anthony. I remember the ...

themidwifefromhell.com If your thinking about a home birth I have provided some great articles to read. To ensure your home birth is safe please read all articles and brainstorm.  Thanks http://drlindagalloway.wordpress.com/2012/07/02/do-you-know-how-to-avoid-a-homebirth-disaster-2/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2013/07/the-terrifying-side-of-trendy-are-home-births-safe/ http://www.cafemom.com/group/416/forums/read/11419719/home_birth_turns_into_disaster http://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/templates/content.aspx?ID=3021

More questions can be added at anytime but generally you can make a great decision based on the responses and body language from these questions. Some of the steps involve following through. Here are some questions (in no particular order) What school did you attend? Do you carry insurance? How many infant deaths do you hold? Are you currently sanctioned? How many infant injuries do you hold? How many live births do you hold? How many singleton births have you attended? How many multiples births have you attended? How many water births have you attended? Have you been late to any deliveries? If so, by how many minutes? Where do you live? How many of your own children did you birth at home? Do you have a lawyer? Have you ever been sued while licensed? How long does it take you to get to a birth when in labor? What hospital are you partnered with? What doctor are you assigned/partnered with? Do you have a office? Where is it located? How long have y...

                                       Me and Kanoy at her Baby Shower 32 weeks pregnant Me and Kanoy The pictures at top are of Me and my friend Kanoy (kah-noy). There in the pictures we are both pregnant with twins .Hers twins are fraternal boys (di/di) and my twins are identical girls(mono/mono). We have been friends for a couple of years now. Her boyfriend Mike and my husband are really good friends. and we would double date often. Her and I were friends a year before she became pregnant.  Before Kanoy got pregnant she would talk about how bad she wanted to be pregnant. Me already with two children I would remind her how fulfilling my job as a mother and wife was. As time went on  Kanoy and I talked over the phone from time to ti...

themidwifefromhell.com Twin Aminah and Twin Akilah  When I first visited with him the day after my daughter was admitted into the NICU at Cardinal Glennon Hospital St. Louis he appeared to be annoyed by my circumstances with my "Home Birth Disaster". He kind of had an arrogant attitude you can say. He shook my hand and told me it wasn't good. He told me that Aminah went to long without oxygen and resulted in a brain injury. He told me that my daughter was pretty much brain dead and the only thing keeping her alive was the machine. He said that she would never do the things that her identical sister will be able to do. He advised my husband and I that it would be in our best interest to let Aminah pass. He gave us the option to take Aminah home and let her pass at home or just take away the tubes. I refused. I wasn't ready. I was in denial. I continued to visit everyday and Dr. Havernak passed me on many occasions in ...

themidwifefromhell.com Please don't let your situation ever be like my situation was. I waited to long for a midwife. I trusted my midwifes' judgment. I mean that's what I was paying her for right? To think about it I trusted her judgment to much. The night I went into labor with my daughters I was on my way home from the Blues Fest in Downtown St. Louis Missouri. My husband was driving and my two other children rode in the back seats of out family SUV. My daughter Abayomi 4 years old and son Akin 2 years old awaiting arrival of twin baby sisters Akilah and Aminah. As we continued home I begin to feel different. My lower stomach began to contract very heavily which made me grab my husbands arm and sigh in pain. As he looked over at me he said, " Oh Ohh it's time". I tell him yes. I removed my phone out of my purse and phoned my midwife Joann. She answered the phone. I told her that I was indeed having contractions. She asked me how many minutes the...